Faith or Denial?

I think I'm in a better place today. My back is still expressing its outrage at being assaulted on Friday, but it's getting better. I can sit supported for 15-20 minutes. I can walk a lot better.

I woke up many times last night but was able to go back to sleep, so I did get enough rest. Well, it seems like there's never enough. But close enough to enough. :)

I'm tired and weak today, but I think my brain is cooperating a little better than yesterday. I'm struggling with spelling sometimes. I was stymied this morning on the word biscuit. I kept typing buis... no that's not right... bius... buis.. finally had to sound out the beginning of the word. Good thing my mom taught me phonics!

I kind of had to laugh at a thought I couldn't get out this morning. I was telling my friend, "I emailed my parents to ask if there are any neurological or autoimmune disorders in our family. I heard from my dad, and he said in his family there are none. But um... my um..." A few seconds went by. I was going to talk about someone else... My friend finally prompted, "Your mom?"

Oh brother.

I've misunderstood my sister a few times. She said, "It fell over," and I thought she said, "I fell over." I was like, "Are you okay??" Yesterday she said something was off and I thought she said it was on. And I get VERY tired when she talks, because she talks so fast. I have to work to understand her. That kind of concentration is tiring.

And I'm making typing mistakes, which is unusual for me. Like lo instead of ol in a word. Looks like my brain is getting hit right now. The pins and needles have not been bad in my limbs.

I decided I was ready to watch the patient information DVD from one of the drug companies, called "Inside an MS Exacerbation." It was a two-minute animation showing the immune system damaging myelin and oligodendrocytes. Boo. My friend watched it with me, which was nice. I want the people around me to be interested in it and learn with me.

I'm trying to be careful about what I read online. I know that there is a lot of misinformation on the internet--when I look up any topic in my profession, 80% of the information is wrong or incomplete. I amin (I'm leaving that as an example of the typing mistakes I'm having to correct frequently) imagine it's the same for other professions. With MS being so poorly understood in general, I think it's safe to assume that reading online information will be useless.

I am similarly disinterested in online MS communities, because I wonder if you would see people with worse outcomes in those. Wouldn't people with good outcomes be out living their lives?

When my [young and clueless] home teachers came over Thursday night, one mentioned that there was a sister in the ward who has been living with MS for 30 years or something, that I should meet her and talk to her. I politely nodded but internally had a strong negative reaction. I do NOT want to meet her. I don't want to meet people that far along in it. I don't want to think that's what I'll become. And I don't even know what her situation is, and I don't want to know.

I re-read my patriarchal blessing, which I knew brought up health. Actually, it brings it up three times, and my blessing is not all that long. Reading that, I was thinking that I would be fine, but I also know that I've misread my blessing before. Sometimes we interpret things the way we want them to be. But I did feel better.

However... I know that denial is one step in the grief process. Some people get stuck in it for years. For example, the parent of one of my students accepted the disability when the child was six years old, despite having been diagnosed while still in the womb. The child did not receive some things that would have helped her during that time.

Faith and hope are good, and I'm holding onto them. But then I start to think, "You know, I'm fine. It might even just go away."Another reason it's hard for me to accept the diagnosis and move through the grief stages is that a couple of people around me have questioned it, thinking maybe I have Lyme. Every time other people question it, I do somewhat.

I wonder if I should talk to a shrink or something. One who is a member of the church would be nice.

So although I'm not sure I'm ready to meet people with MS, I do think I'm ready for patient education. I'm ready to talk about it.

Like I said, I didn't want to google multiple sclerosis. But I did want information, so I googled multiple sclerosis patient education. I found this website: http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/tutorials/multiplesclerosis/htm/index.htm

My friend watched it with me. It was pretty basic information, which I knew from google searches over the past few months. But my friend hadn't been learning with me during that time, so it was probably good for her.

And I googled multiple sclerosis and hearing loss, because I did have drops in my hearing and tinnitus a couple of times... I want to say around March or April. Maybe May. It was short-lived (less than half an hour each time) and always went back to normal, but it was certainly weird. I found that about 6% of people will have hearing loss, but many more have hearing dysfunction due to lesions in the auditory pathways or cortex. Hm. We'll see what the evoked potentials testing shows. I'm really glad they're doing that. I'm not at all scared to lose my hearing, though. Losing my vision would be more devastating.

I haven't cried today. That's good, right?